Focus on progress, not perfection
Compete with yourself, not others
You are good enough
I read an article about habits for self-fulfilment. I’ve spent a lot of time recently reading things to help me focus. I have turned to online articles about how to improve as a person.
This one article was straight forward and honest. When it comes to self-help, I don’t, or at least I haven’t done a lot of “self-helping”. I’ve always been quite cynical of books like that for some reason. I guess I am a more a “hands-on” practical type that has to see something with my own eyes to believe it can work. I can’t pick up a book and expect to be a different person after reading it. I know some people have experienced this and that’s great, but it’s not for me. So I go into a lot of these types of articles online with a semi-skeptical mind. That makes it a lot harder to break out of thinking it’s not going to work.
I don’t remember being that way as a kid. It has developed as an adult through all my various traumas and negative life experiences. Could reading about self-fulfilment actually help me with my skepticism? I am willing to give it a go.
The three habits outlined in this article are;
The first one makes a lot of sense to me. Growth is what you want and need. Perfection is something that is either too far to reach for most or not realistic so how can you ever strive for it? Perfection is a trap.
I try to imagine the worst possible situation as being unable to even get out of bed in the morning. For some people, this is a reality. At that point, it’s a little silly thinking about my own situation, which is in no way, shape or form as bad as that. I begin to feel grateful for what I have, and I can then take the next step.
The second habit is the hardest for me to put into practice. I have always been a competitive person. It’s something that I can actually feel fueling my thoughts and even my focus. I can’t escape this feeling that I am always judged by others and I’m never good enough. And because of that, I push myself harder and harder. I know this isn’t good for me because I’ve had a break down before. I know what it’s like on the other side of failing to get control of this feeling. This is something I struggle with every day.
I have become less competitive and judgmental of myself than I used to be, which is an improvement. But I still have a long way to go. To reach the point where I am no longer blaming myself for failures is going to be hard work. To focus on the positive is going to be hard work.
The final habit is one that ties into the second for me for those reasons mentioned. Am I good enough? You’re not supposed to hesitate with this one. You have off days, everybody does. But when those “off” days become a regular occurrence, it’s a problem. So I know if I work on the second habit it will spill over into the last habit as well.
Do you ever struggle with these things? How do you look at self-fulfilment? Is it as easy as learning three habits and implementing them into your life? Have you ever done anything like this yourself? Please let me know in the comments. I am very keen to learn how it works for you or why it doesn’t. If you have different methods, let me know.
Thank You for reading.