Goal Setting Check-in #1 for 2022

Hi, there, friends and readers! Me again, coming at you with a catch-up post about goal setting or failure as the case may be. If you’re anything like me, you’ve tried to reach SO many goals in the past, but you’ve struggled to complete them. You’ve started off with the best intentions;  you know what you need to achieve and have a good idea of how. But you’re still not reaching them. Why do you think that is?

I am no self-help guru, lol. In fact, it’s pretty funny considering how many times I’ve failed in the past. I tend to hit some goals but not every goal for various reasons – primarily lack of motivation and laziness. I will be blunt here. There is no fooling around with goal setting; it is SERIOUS business 😅. Well, it can be for some. I think I’ve mellowed out a lot over the years. And I don’t see goal setting the way I used to (which was do or die, lol). I’m happy to achieve one of my goals, let alone an entire list.

So this year, I created a goal-setting non-goal setting list to change things up a bit. So how far have I progressed since then? I “officially” started on January 02 this year. Here is my first post about it. And this is my list:

  1. Read more books – at this stage, I have like five books I am reading but never finishing. I don’t know why that is, but I seem to get distracted by other things easily. So this step is to at least finish FIVE books this year. Not that many, considering how many books I used to read (usually a book a week). I just stopped reading entirely, and I want to go back to enjoying reading again.
  2. Work on my fitness. Last year I was diagnosed with hypertension (high blood pressure), and I need to get fitter, even in small steps. I will buy a treadmill soon, and I’ll slowly track my progress.
  3. To care less about social media and more about the well-being of my family, myself and others. I want to become a better person in general.
  4. To formulate a plan for my writing and where I need or want to take it in future. This could even mean leaving my current job to pursue writing again, I’m not sure, but it’s a HUGE step which is why I need to make a plan with smaller steps to work through so I can achieve it. This goal might take more than a year to put in place; I just can’t confirm that yet. It’s definitely a super-goal I need to break down into smaller steps.
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So far, I have worked exceptionally hard towards the first goal, and I’ve read two books since then and a comic. I’ve reviewed the star wars book and the comic here and the non-fiction graphic design book over on my writing/book reviewing blog here.

With number two on the list, I started out walking a lot more, but when we (New Zealand) went back into “semi lock-down”, I lost motivation to continue that. I am still walking every day when I get the chance, but I’m not pushing myself very hard, and I know I can do better. So we’ll say that I’ve started that goal, and it’s currently a positive “work in progress”.

With number three on my list, “care less about social media, – I have failed terribly there. It will take a lot more effort than I initially anticipated to walk away from caring about social media. That said, though, my partner and I have a “no internet” rule after 6:30 pm each night, and we’ve never broken that once so far. So I feel like I am slowly contributing towards this goal but mostly indirectly.

I am also still cleaning up this blog, which ties into this goal. I accidentally deleted a whole lot of followers from my blog the other day, and I am slowly working my way through reinviting them back. SO SORRY if I deleted you, it was entirely by mistake, and I’ll get back to inviting you soon, so don’t worry if you see me following you again sometime soon, lol 🤣😝.

And finally, number four was to formulate a plan for my writing – there is an event that has impacted this goal in a big way which happened to me very recently. So, for now, planning to do anything with my writing is officially on hold. In a really short time, I managed to leave one of the websites I was writing for (as a reviewer) and get a new job, one I’ve wanted for a while. I couldn’t get this job last year because there were no openings. But a position opened up recently, and I was asked to apply by the team manager, and I got the job! To be clear, it’s not a full-time writing job, but it is a job that I actually want to do, so I feel terrific about it!

And now I am keen to hear all about your goal setting or achievements so far this year! And remember – IT DOESN’T MATTER HOW BIG or important the goal is because everything can be done in little steps. What’s important is that you take a step! Talk to you soon friends, hit me up in the comments where I’ll be hanging out to chat ☺️😊

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Hello 2022! Let’s Talk About Setting (Or Not Setting) Goals

Over the years, it has become a tradition to write a New Year post hoping that I will reach any new goals I decide to reach that year or at least do my best to achieve. This isn’t all that uncommon for bloggers at this time of year. But last year, I did something a little different on my other blog, and I tried to make myself accountable for the goals I listed at the beginning of the year.

That method worked much better than previous posts where goal-setting was important. It’s also lovely to look back on what you’ve achieved versus what you haven’t and to reassess your goals for the new year. I guess most people make these lists at the beginning of the year with the hope they’ll tick off every box by the end of the year. My success rate has never been 100 per cent. So this is probably a good indicator I am not using the S.M.A.R.T. goal method effectively enough, OR for whatever reason, I’m just giving up.

So this year, I’m not going to set myself any “goals” as such, but I’m going to make a shortlist of things I want to improve on throughout the year. And I will actively revisit my “goals” every quarter (or more often if required) to track where I am in the process. This might seem like “goal setting” to many, but it doesn’t feel as rigid in my mind. I’m not a psychologist, but perhaps my brain just doesn’t respond to the rigidity of setting challenging goals to achieve. I used to be the type of person that did that regularly. But that was years ago, and I am a different person now. I guess I’ve become soft in my older years, lol 😅

I still want to hold myself accountable for not achieving what I want, but I don’t know how to do that in a way that doesn’t make me feel bad lol  – does anyone have any suggestions?

So the S.M.A.R.T method only works if I am tracking progress throughout the year. But this again seems rigid, it feels a little like suffocation, and I know I will never achieve any goals if I feel like I am putting too much pressure on myself to achieve them.

Even Yoda’s message about doing something makes more sense. Trying only gets you so far, and it’s not enough.

It might sound like I am letting myself off easy, so the goals don’t seem unachievable, but really it’s not that at all. I just don’t have the fight in me to push myself this year. I feel somewhat deflated after last year. Who knows if this will change? But for now, I still want to improve; I still want to move forward.

Here is my list for 2022

  1. Read more books – at this stage, I have like five books I am reading but never finishing. I don’t know why that is, but I seem to get distracted by other things easily. So this step is to at least finish FIVE books this year. Not that many, considering how many books I used to read (usually a book a week). I just stopped reading entirely, and I want to go back to enjoying reading again.
  2. Work on my fitness. Last year I was diagnosed with hypertension (high blood pressure), and I need to focus on getting fitter, even in small steps. I will buy a treadmill soon, and I’ll slowly track my progress.
  3. To care less about social media and more about the well-being of my family, myself and others. I want to become a better person in general.
  4. To formulate a plan for my writing and where I need or want to take it in future. This could even mean leaving my current job to pursue writing again, I’m not sure, but it’s a HUGE step which is why I need to make a plan with smaller steps to work through so I can achieve it. This goal might take more than a year to put in place; I just can’t confirm that yet. It’s definitely a super-goal I need to break down into smaller steps.

That’s it; only four things I want to work on, but they seem like big things to me right now, so it’s going to be interesting to see how well I do in the months to come.

And finally, a HUGE thank you to all my friends and readers here on WordPress. I say this every year, but I mean it when I say that without you all reading and liking my posts, life would genuinely be more challenging and less enjoyable. I am thankful for you all, and I wish you the best of everything! 🙏😁😊

 

Let me know what your goal setting plan looks like this year, as I am keen to read them! Are you going to be setting new goals or working on previous goals? Or are you going to avoid doing it all together this year? I’ll be hanging out in the comments, so feel free to join me there, friends. If you’ve got a goal-setting post you think might help me, please let me know!

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Something with my writing

It seems I’m always trying to discipline myself into better habits. This is even more so with my writing. The problem is that most of the time my inspiration can come from just about anywhere, and it’s not always appropriate to whip out my phone and note something down or write something down on paper (I still do this sometimes!). This bugs me to no end. And when I manage to catch that “wave” of new inspiration, I’m either drowning in it and completely overwhelmed or barely getting my feet wet. Sometimes I feel like I just want to write, it might not make sense, it’s just my thoughts that come together and might amount to something great or nothing at all. But the words deserve to live beyond the life I give them. And if I don’t take these chances and write, I start to feel like I’m letting myself down.

Does anyone else feel like this with their writing? An example is when I am at work, for instance, there could be 10 different things I want to say all at once because something has triggered me or inspired me or enlightened me. But I can’t because I’m at work and I already feel like everyone is watching what I do. And herein lies the problem. I feel like my creative self is trying to tell me something. I am actually experiencing one of the most creative periods of my life right now – I’m writing almost every day, I’m creating things in photoshop, I’m learning new skills. This is an excellent time for me to spread my creative “wings”. Yet, I still feel like an under-achiever, like the kid who always strived to get an A but had to settle for B+. I don’t want to be that person.

I’m also not the kind of writer that has the end goal of publishing a book. I’ve never really wanted to write a book. I like to write short stories, but I’ve never aspired to be an author of a book. I completely understand why a lot of writers do strive to achieve this goal, and it’s a very worthy goal. There is everything right with wanting to write like the authors you’ve grown up with. Yet somehow, I feel like maybe I should feel this way about writing, and I should consider writing a book or even self-publishing. But it’s not really in my heart.

I feel really strange right now. I don’t know what I really want to say, I’m just letting my fingers tap along on the keyboard. There is one thing that I am going to do this weekend though, and that is to connect an old hard drive I stored away that has all of my early poetry on it. I don’t know why I didn’t copy it over to my new disk, I think I just forgot to. But I think I’m inspired enough to write poetry again. Don’t know if I am gutsy enough to reveal any of it here, but I just want to sit with it for a while and see where it takes me.

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Question of the Day #1 – Writing Prompt

Question of the Day – Did you keep up with your NY resolutions? Did you keep your promise or promises to yourself?

I’m okay with answering this question because I think I’ve done a relatively good job of keeping the two promises I made to myself to improve on this year. I have blogged about what those goals were before and my two goals this year are 1. Improve my writing by writing every day and creating a good writing habit and 2. To learn to say “No” to people who are too demanding of me.

Both of these goals are going to eventually become ongoing goals I will have to teach myself to achieve for the rest of my days if that’s what it takes to improve. There is no set time frame for these goals to expire. Which is not really recommended when setting goals but life-long goals are essential to consider as well. If you want to be a better writer, you have to write every day not just on the days when you feel committed or inspired, right? And being able to stand your ground when people push you too far is also something I hope I will be doing way into my twilight years!

I think life goals are way more important than something you might achieve once or twice when the new year arrives. Conditioning yourself to be a better person, or a better parent, friend or whatever you choose should be an ongoing life-long goal. That’s not to diminish anyone else’s resolutions if you have them. Any goal you commit yourself to is worthwhile.

Have you been keeping your NY resolutions? Why or why not? Let me know friends!

I want to set myself a new Pinterest goal – 750k Unique Viewers

I know this sounds steep for a first goal, but the closest I have been to this is 660k unique viewers. I think I can push it even higher and I want to blog my progress. Why do I want to do this? I dunno, I am just curious to see if my content can get that many people interested in what I post. It’s as simple as that, really. I have blogged about Pinterest on several occasions, and I know that Pinterest is one of the reasons why I have been receiving increased traffic to my blog. Since I started blogging more regularly, I can see the results reflected back in my site stats, and a lot of the traffic comes from Pinterest.

Do you think I can do it? I think I can do it, so let’s DO THIS! 🙂

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