I learned to dislike Valentines Day. The reason for this might surprise you as it has nothing to do with love. My father taught me that Valentine’s Day was just another marketing ploy. Why spend money on someone you love one day of the year? Why even make it a thing?

On a personal level, what my father had to pass onto me made a lot of sense. It has shaped the person I have become today in more ways than one. I no longer look at these “special occasions” as anything to celebrate. I don’t begrudge anyone that does. Each to their own. But for me, love should never be about a pricetag or one day of the year.

If Valentine’s day wasn’t a thing, would you even consider buying your loved one flowers? So why is this day any different? I am not saying go out and buy flowers for every person you’re friends with every day. Practice showing the people closest to you that you love them as a daily habit. Isn’t this a much better way to express what you feel?

I don’t dislike receiving cards and flowers. But I have always been a more practical type when it comes to gifts and, my partner knows this. I am not the “flowers” type of girl. I would much rather enjoy receiving a new part for my PC or something of that nature than flowers. I can’t even eat chocolate! As beautiful as flowers are, not everyone appreciates them the same way, and that’s okay.

My partner told me what one of his workmates received for Valentine’s day. He received a note. And that’s it. But I actually think the value of this gift lies within the words written on the note. I would be happy with this gift. If it was a love poem or even words about love, that is an amazing gift. If you enjoy Valentine’s day, that’s great! But my advice is to remember that it doesn’t have to be about spending money. Nor should it be about making someone feel special one day of the year.